It was 19 years ago that both Bruce and I both ended up at a party that neither of us were supposed to be at…we had never crossed paths before, he was from Ontario and I am an island girl through and through. Looking back now, the Universe was working its magic. I was immediately attracted to his infectious smile, his playful attitude….and he was SOOO cute!! We have been together ever since that pivotal night….as they say, the rest is history.

In 2001 we stood in front of the most important people in our lives, we pledged to each other that we would stand with each other “For better or for worse.” On that day all we could see was the better side of that…the home, the kids, travel, laughs, fortune. We had no idea how much was coming our way. We have so much to celebrate, 3 beautiful, healthy, happy children. A home that is truly our sanctuary. We have the most supportive, amazing families. Bruce has shown me the world through his adventurous eyes. He makes me laugh all the time, often I am laughing at him but he is okay with that, lol. We are blessed beyond measure, but with all the good comes challenges that are there to try and break you, where you truly need to dig deep and show the world what you are made of.

When I look back on this journey I am most surprised and proud of how much a strong, real, true love can take on and not only survive but thrive! With every disagreement, challenge, birth, death, misstep, celebration we CHOOSE to stay, fight and love. I trust Bruce, his love makes me feel secure, safe and like I can conquer the world. We have spent almost 2 decades of our lives together, we are two different people, with different backgrounds, stories, different thoughts and opinions. Why would we ever have thought that we would always see eye to eye? There have been numerous times when life, hardships, stress and pure exhaustion has brought me to a place where I wanted to quit, should it be this hard? My thoughts always come back to this….anything of true importance and value in your life is worth the work. We wake up every single day and choose each other, we choose this LOVE, we consciously CHOOSE this CRAZY life….

Last March our greatest challenge came with a Breast Cancer diagnosis for me….our entire world froze in an instance. Through fears, tears and uncertainty we grabbed each others hands and dove into a battle that would change our entire family forever.

This year of healing has made us appreciate each other more than ever before, we have total gratitude for all that God had provided us. We no longer (or very rarely) take each other for granted. I believe with my whole heart I am alive and winning this FIGHT today because we did this together. He held my heart, safe and secure, when I needed him most. He never doubted that I would come out the other side if this. Our family is united and stronger than ever.I would not be the woman I am today without every single exciting moment of our story. Bruce is my husband, my best friend, my cheerleader, my soul mate, the father of my children. He is the first one I turn to to share my successes and he was the one I wanted by my hospital bed. I know he is here with me for the long haul, for better or for worse. That is an amazing gift.

When my story is done and told one day, I want my kids to look back and see a REAL story of love, no bells and whistles. Two people who set aside their egos and insecurities and chose trust and strength instead. Two people who never gave up on each other, who CHOSE each other every single day and created a life full of breathtaking moments.

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take but by the moments that take your breath away”

-Cindra

 

Petawawa to Nanaimo – A trip of a LIFETIME

A beautiful blonde girl sits across the room from me at a friends birthday party. “Is she looking at me?” I ask myself as I look back over my shoulder to see who is sitting behind me. Chris is sitting there….”gotta be checking out Chris” I say to myself….”wait she IS looking at me”…..I flash her my pearly whites and she smiles back. We exchange glances throughout the night. And that is where our story begins…………

At that time in my life, I never really looked to the future. Did I want to get married? Did I ever want kids? I just want to have fun for now! “I moved out to BC to have fun, not get tied down! After all, I’m only here for a few years then it’s back to the Ottawa Valley!”

Little did I know that this BC girl would be the love of my life, the one I would be spending the rest of my life with….the mother of my kids! Little did she know that this Ontario boy would turn her life upside down with a simple smile 🙂

Was it because I had my own landscaping business? Was she after my money! haha! No, it had to be the brick sized cellular phone clipped to my belt on my Randy River jeans. “Yeah, that was it!”

How could two people from opposite sides of the country from very different backgrounds form a bond for life? We didn’t know either but it just happened. Love doesn’t come without its own hurdles. We’ve learned a lot along the way. We learned each other’s boundaries, we learned each other’s comforts, we learned each others strengths, we learned each others imperfections. We struggled but we gained. We fought but won.

Cindra has always shown her strengths and beliefs in many ways…..sometimes they would come in the way of making decisions for the family. Sometimes revealing itself as a leader in her job. Sometimes it would show itself in just plain stubbornness……..just like me. We both have our own strengths and beliefs but always seem to find common ground when it concerns our family.

Our biggest achievement obviously is our three beautiful kids…..each with their own bit of “us” coming out in their personalities…..I love it!

This past year was our toughest year in the almost 20 years we’ve been together. Cancer entered our life closer to home than ever before. Cindra’s diagnosis of breast Cancer in March of 2015 was a complete shock to our little family circle. I was so overwhelmed with emotion that I almost didn’t know how to react. “What do I do?” Well, I just had to be strong for her and be there for her everyday like I have since we met. I would take each step with her knowing that this tough chick would come out on top a winner……and she did.

I try and live everyday to it’s fullest….I love spending time with my wife and my kids. FAMILY means everything to me. I will always fight for my family and be the best husband and father I can be………….just like my dad.

-Bruce

Take my hand
You know I’ll be there
If you can
I’ll cross the sky for your love
Give you what I hold dear

(Drowning Man by U2)

Lindsay

Leave a Reply