Petawawa to Nanaimo – A trip of a LIFETIME

A beautiful blonde girl sits across the room from me at a friends birthday party. “Is she looking at me?” I ask myself as I look back over my shoulder to see who is sitting behind me. Chris is sitting there….”gotta be checking out Chris” I say to myself….”wait she IS looking at me”…..I flash her my pearly whites and she smiles back. We exchange glances throughout the night. And that is where our story begins…………

At that time in my life, I never really looked to the future. Did I want to get married? Did I ever want kids? I just want to have fun for now! “I moved out to BC to have fun, not get tied down! After all, I’m only here for a few years then it’s back to the Ottawa Valley!”

Little did I know that this BC girl would be the love of my life, the one I would be spending the rest of my life with….the mother of my kids! Little did she know that this Ontario boy would turn her life upside down with a simple smile 🙂

Was it because I had my own landscaping business? Was she after my money! haha! No, it had to be the brick sized cellular phone clipped to my belt on my Randy River jeans. “Yeah, that was it!”

How could two people from opposite sides of the country from very different backgrounds form a bond for life? We didn’t know either but it just happened. Love doesn’t come without its own hurdles. We’ve learned a lot along the way. We learned each other’s boundaries, we learned each other’s comforts, we learned each others strengths, we learned each others imperfections. We struggled but we gained. We fought but won.

Cindra has always shown her strengths and beliefs in many ways…..sometimes they would come in the way of making decisions for the family. Sometimes revealing itself as a leader in her job. Sometimes it would show itself in just plain stubbornness……..just like me. We both have our own strengths and beliefs but always seem to find common ground when it concerns our family.

Our biggest achievement obviously is our three beautiful kids…..each with their own bit of “us” coming out in their personalities…..I love it!

This past year was our toughest year in the almost 20 years we’ve been together. Cancer entered our life closer to home than ever before. Cindra’s diagnosis of breast Cancer in March of 2015 was a complete shock to our little family circle. I was so overwhelmed with emotion that I almost didn’t know how to react. “What do I do?” Well, I just had to be strong for her and be there for her everyday like I have since we met. I would take each step with her knowing that this tough chick would come out on top a winner……and she did.

I try and live everyday to it’s fullest….I love spending time with my wife and my kids. FAMILY means everything to me. I will always fight for my family and be the best husband and father I can be………….just like my dad.

Take my hand
You know I’ll be there
If you can
I’ll cross the sky for your love
Give you what I hold dear

(Drowning Man by U2)

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