Sarah and I met in BC in 1998.  I was 26 years old and the general sense I had was that it would be a long time before I ever met someone that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.  It certainly didn’t turn out that way though!  To this day I can still remember the first time I ever saw Sarah working in a retail store in Nelson BC.  Eventually a couple of weeks later our paths crossed through a mutual friend and the stage was set for a first date on the luckiest day of all St. Patrick’s day.  Almost immediately everything with us seemed to work.  We spent nearly every day together after the first couple of weeks and moved in together almost right away.  In less than 5 months we were married.  All our friends must have thought we were crazy and I’m sure some (most) thought it wouldn’t last.

My whole life I’ve heard how marriage was such hard work and how 50% of marriages end in divorce.  I suppose it is for some people but I’ve never seen it that way.  I’ve never thought of my wife as anything but my best friend.  I can’t wait to see her and I can’t wait to spend time with her, simple as that.  I accept her exactly as she is and support her in anything she wants to do just as any friend would.

Do I feel old offering advice to soon to be married couples?  Yah maybe a bit 🙂  But I’m going to anyways.  Never speak ill of your spouse to your friends even in jest.  If you say it enough it becomes who you are.  One of the things I’m proudest of in our marriage is that we have never had an argument about money.  Not even a heated discussion.  Even when we never had any money it was never an issue.

I would not go back and change a thing even if I could…

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