A ‘spender’ and a ‘saver’ say “I do”

A ‘spender’ and a ‘saver’ say “I do”

You just had the wedding of a lifetime! It was beautiful and a night to remember. Now that it’s over, it’s back to the reality of life. And with this reality, comes dealing with your money. You spend all of your money as soon as it comes in and your new husband is starting to get on your case about not saving. (Or maybe your roles are reversed, but play with me here.)

You make sure your bills are paid, then whatever money is left from your paychecks, you spend on what you want when you’re out shopping. Your husband on the other hand, just pays his bills and puts the rest of his money into a savings account. Every pay day, your husband nags you about spending your money. Then you both get mad and don’t talk to each other for the rest of the day.

Money issues are the most common cause of divorce, so the two of you need to work out your money issues. Here’s what you can do:

1. Call it quits because this just isn’t going to work for you and the fighting really isn’t going to stop, just get a divorce.


2. Sit down every payday and have a civil conversation about money with your husband. Having regular conversations about money is going to help you to continue to build your relationship. Start with short 5 minute conversations and slowly increase the length of time the two of you talk about money. You can talk about what’s important to each of you with your money. You can talk about how the two of you can make a compromise on your money.

As time goes on and the two of you talk more about your money, it will get easier and you’ll be able to start saving and getting your husband (or wife) off your back when it comes to your money.

So what are you going to do, get a divorce or start having your money conversations?

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