What the heck is wedding planning burnout and what’s the difference between burnout and stress?
Burnout is a state of physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion that comes from an extended period of stress. It can be caused by factors such as work overloads, professional disappointments or setbacks, and personal losses. Stress is a feeling of pressure or strain that can lead to negative health effects if it becomes too intense. Stress is a natural response to challenging situations like deadlines at work, money problems or family issues. The key difference between burnout and stress is that burnout leads to a lack of energy and motivation while stress can be good for you in small doses. Burnout is often accompanied by feelings of hopelessness, irritability and guilt while stress usually brings about feelings of agitation and anxiety.
Wedding planning burnout is a common phenomenon that happens when the bride-to-be becomes exhausted and overwhelmed with the wedding planning process. It can lead to a sense of dread about wedding planning and even about the big day. This can happen to anyone, but there are some people who are more at risk of experiencing it. Those who have a history of mental health problems, those who have been through stressful events in the past and those who lack social support are more likely to experience wedding burnout.
Wedding planning is one of the most exciting and stressful times of your life. However, It’s easy to get caught up in the details and lose sight of the big picture. It is important to remember that wedding planning burnout is preventable. If you’re feeling the wedding burnout creeping in here are a few practical tips and tricks to help you avoid it and stay organized before, during, and after the wedding!
1. Don’t try to do everything yourself.
When you’re planning a wedding, it can be easy to get overwhelmed with the number of decisions that need to be made but don’t try to do everything yourself. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey! Try to delegate tasks to your wedding party, family, and friends…
-Maid of honor
The maid of honor can be a great help to the bride to be by taking charge of tasks such as organizing the bachelorette party, providing moral support, and heading up the planning with other members of the wedding party.
The bridal party is a very important part of the wedding. They’re the ones who help with the dress fittings, decorations, and other logistics. Get your bridal party involved in the planning process early on and ask them for their input. That’s what they are there for and you’ll be surprised by how many ideas they have!
Many couples notice an increase in conflict during times of stress, working together to plan and prepare for your wedding can strengthen your bond and ensure that you both have a positive attitude and the day wedding is something you can both look forward to and enjoy! Many couples notice an increase in conflict during times of stress, working together to plan and prepare for your wedding can strengthen your bond and ensure that you both have a positive attitude and the day wedding is something you can both look forward to and enjoy!
This could be a controversial idea, but depending on your situation, you may want to enlist the help of your parents and/or your future in-laws. They are (hopefully) excited that you’re getting married and there is a good chance they will be ….
2. Stay organized.
-Decide on a budget and stick with it
In order to stick to your budget, you need to make sure that you have a clear goal and know what your priorities are. It’s a good idea to make a list of all the things that you would like in your wedding and then go through it with your partner and see which items can be eliminated or reduced in cost.
-Start looking at venues and vendors early on in the process
It is always better to start looking for a wedding venue and vendors early. The earlier you start, the more options you’ll have to choose from. A venue is more than just a place for the ceremony and reception; it’s also where you’ll spend hours with your guests before and after the event. It’s not an easy decision, but it’s an important one – so don’t wait until the last minute!
You should also try to get in touch with vendors early. This way, you can make sure that they’re available for your wedding date and (bonus!) maybe they can even offer you a discount 🙂 When vetting possible vendors there are a few important questions you may want to ask in order to avoid any issues come wedding day.
The first thing that you should ask is if they have experience with weddings. This may seem like a no brainer but you really don’t want your wedding to be somebody else’s trial run.
Do they provide references or testimonials? This is very important, you want to make sure that the vendor is professional and reliable. They should be able to answer all your questions, and have a portfolio of work that they can show you. If a vendor doesn’t have at least 3 good references ( not their parents or best friend) then walk away. Even if their pricing is amazing and it seems like a great deal, there’s probably a reason for it.
Are they insured? Many venues will actually require that outside vendors are fully insured. In order to be insured, a vendor needs to have liability insurance, which covers the cost of any damages that may happen during the event. A lot of times, this type of insurance will also cover lost wages and medical expenses for the event day if something were to happen.
-Create a timeline for the whole process, including preplanning, engagement party, bachelor/bachelorette party, etc.
3. Take some time for yourself.
While it’s important to focus on the wedding, make sure to schedule some time for yourself. With so much to do and so many people to please, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and if you don’t take some time for yourself, you’ll risk becoming a “bridezilla” by the time your big day arrives.
Take an afternoon off from wedding planning and do something you enjoy. Get a massage, go shopping, or just spend some time alone with your thoughts. It will help you de-stress, stay motivated and come back to wedding planning with a fresh perspective.
Don’t forget to schedule some time for your fiance too. Planning a wedding can be a lot of work for both of you, and you need to make sure you’re still spending time together as a couple. Set aside some time each week for a date night, even if it’s just dinner and a movie.
4. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
The wedding day is meant for celebrating, not stressing. It’s important to remember that it’s a once-in-a-lifetime event and it should be enjoyed. Remember, your guests are there to celebrate you and your partner.
No one is going to be focusing on whether you have just the right shade of napkin or whether you made a mistake on the seating chart. Those things can be fixed, or they don’t really matter. Don’t lose your mind over them.