Tradition outlines that your maid of honor is an unmarried woman. Brides have been disregarding this tradition somewhat and have included married woman as their matron of honor. Now, what if your BFF is a guy and you want him to be your maid of honor? What are the rules to this? Quite frankly, in this day and age, I would say there aren’t any rules and you should definitely have your guy BFF stand next to you when you say your vows. The only thing I suggest is to give him the title of “Man of Honor.”

The role of Maid/Matron/Man of Honor is reserved for the person you are closest to and should be chosen regardless of their sex. Every bride deserves to plan their wedding with their best friend by her side with the utmost support. This person may be helping you find the perfect venue, select your wedding gown, help write your wedding vows, or even help put together wedding favors. Or this person may be absolutely of no use in helping you with these tasks but has always been supportive of your decisions. Regardless of why you chose this person for this important role, the choice is the brides and should only matter to you.

If you have pressure from a family member to have a specific person as your maid of honor, for example, your mom would like you to have your sister as your maid of honor, have an honest conversation with mom. Tell her you have chosen your maid/man of honor, (can provide reasons if you want), and suggest a different role for your sister in the wedding. She might make an excellent bridesmaid or MC. The important thing is to acknowledge the suggestion, the importance of the role, and to provide a solution.

If your groom would like a Best Woman to stand next to him instead of a Best Man, why not?! This is his decision, plus it might balance out your pictures if you really care about stuff like that.

Monica Hui

Hello! I'm Monica and I have many passions. Most of which relate to planning, decorating, and crafting. Growing up as an only child, I frequented fabric stores with my mom and home improvement stores with my dad. Having acquired some sewing skills and a bunch of tools, I love to personalize and make things/events unique. I have a can do attitude, so if I can't buy something, I will try to make it from scratch to complete my vision or project. (90% of the time it works out.) Wishahmon was started in 2008 because I was the go to person when my friends needed help planning or decorating their weddings. I didn't start the business to make money off of them but because I was quickly running out of friends getting married and I wanted to continue to do what I loved. In 2010, I expanded into event planning and design. This was my outlet to give back to communities and help out with their fundraisers. Born and raised in Calgary, I felt it was my duty to help out in whatever little way I could. In 2012, I started a wedding gown consignment boutique but traded that in 2015 after the arrival of my daughter, Grace. While I miss seeing the bride's face when they have found their perfect wedding gown, I don't regret my decision. Grace's smile makes up for everything. Becoming a new "old" mom really kicked my butt. As such, the Wishahmon brand has expanded to include stories about pregancy, babies/kids, and my personal stories of motherhood.

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